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When in doubt, text her less. Less is always more with women. That said, going too far in the other direction and just suddenly hammering her with a date request out of nowhere is also the wrong move. You need to weave the date naturally in
MembersWhen a woman shares something fun or personal, like her favorite song or what she has been up to, the wrong move is to use it as an excuse to tell her you will call her more often or that you find it cute. That is textbook simp behavior wit
The fundamental problem with nice-guy or simp texting is that you give your attention away for free with no conditions attached. Your attention needs to have a price tag on it. You talk to her to advance to a date, and you do that by painti
When you are texting a woman, there are only two valid directions. Either you are getting closer to her by painting an image of the two of you together in her mind, which lowers her anxiety and makes her want to go out with you, or you are
MembersWhen Fabrizio Rausa reviews a text exchange with someone he is coaching, he does not just tell them what he would have said. He first presents the situation and asks them what they could have replied. The student generates options, and only
Every conversation with every girl is different. Looking at Fabrizio Rausa's breakdowns and trying to replicate the exact words is almost guaranteed to fail because the context, the prior dynamic, and the specific girl are never the same. T
Sending 'How was your night? Tell me more' reads as desperate over-investment. Nobody genuinely cares that much about a casual contact's night out, and she knows it. Lines like that communicate that talking to her is the most interesting th
MembersComplaining to a girl over text is a hard rule to never break. When Cordell had a bad night at work, he started venting about it. What he could have done instead is used a light piece of reverse psychology: 'It was good because you didn't c
When a girl tells you she is going out and you respond with 'Sounds fun, I'll let you know if I'm out,' you are behaving like a puppy waiting to be called. She has something she wants, and you have just told her you will report back when it
MembersWhen a girl asks what you are doing and you sense she wants something from you, a flat answer like 'Not currently, might snag a shift depending on tonight' tells her nothing and gives her everything. A better move is to answer briefly and i
When you look at a text conversation and there is no movement toward an objective, no attempt to figure out her level of interest, no push toward a meetup, you are just texting for the sake of texting. The girl in Cordell's exchange was cle
If you are in a bad mood or not feeling confident, the music you put on before texting can genuinely shift your frame of mind. Gym or hype music is not going to create the right vibe. Something with a more sensual or laid-back energy, like
MembersWhen a woman implies she wants you to miss her or be interested in her, do not confirm it directly by saying 'I will miss you' or 'I want to see you.' That reads as desperate. Instead, flip it back on her. Say something like 'you just want
MembersInstead of saying 'you're beautiful' out of nowhere, connect the compliment to something she is already talking about. If she mentions wanting to do social media work, you can say she could even post her own content because she is pretty. T
When texting a woman, the flow should feel natural, not like an interrogation. The structure is: say something, ask a question, she responds, you respond to what she said, then ask another question. It goes question, content, content, quest
Fabrizio Rausa highlights a specific technique he calls carrying the joke over. When a woman says she is in an amazing spot, instead of asking directly what good character traits she has, he made the question about the spot itself, keeping
Fabrizio Rausa describes the structure of a well-paced text conversation as question, banter banter banter, question, banter banter banter, question, not question after question after question leading straight to a date request. You move be
MembersFabrizio Rausa points out that across this one conversation he mentioned a possible in-person meetup three or four times before ever formally scheduling anything. By the time he did ask her out, it was not a big moment, it was just the natu
MembersFabrizio Rausa describes how he gathered information from a woman's Instagram profile before and during a conversation. She was in Bali long-term, self-employed, and into meditation. That combination points to a specific archetype of woman.
Fabrizio Rausa walks through a texting sequence where he went from suggesting a trip to Ubud together all the way to discussing imaginary sons and daughters, joking that the daughters better not be as crazy as her. His point is that none of
Fabrizio Rausa explains that assumptions are more powerful than direct questions because they create a frame the other person has to respond to. Instead of asking "do you want to meet?" or "are you crazy?", you state it as a given. The woma
MembersOne of Fabrizio Rausa's preferred techniques is to drop a line that assumes a future together, jumping past the question of whether she will sleep with you and into a world where that is already settled. His go-to example is something like
MembersWhen a woman says something like 'Come to Ubud and you will know what cacao ceremonies are,' she is not saying it neutrally. Fabrizio Rausa explains that she remembered she had mentioned going to Ubud at the start of the conversation, and n
MembersIf a woman asks you a question about yourself before she has even answered the question you just asked her, that is a strong signal of attraction. Fabrizio Rausa notes that after he asked what she liked to do, she came back with 'Where are
Every response a woman gives you is data. Fabrizio Rausa explains that when he floated the FBI joke and she said yes, and then said 'sure' to the teaching idea, those were clear signals she was interested and wanted to keep the interaction
Nothing you will ever say to a woman will sound as good as whatever she is imagining in her mind. Fabrizio Rausa points out that the female mind is far more oriented toward fantasy than the male mind. So when you paint a picture of the two
One of the most effective ways to move a conversation forward is to plant the seed of a shared activity rather than bluntly asking for a date. When a woman mentions something she does, tie yourself into it naturally. In Fabrizio Rausa's exa
MembersWhen she asked "What do you do on a daily basis?" because his previous answer had sparked her curiosity, Fabrizio Rausa did not list his daily routine. He replied "Are you FBI?" with a laughing emoji, keeping the tone light and playful rath
MembersWhen she asked whether Fabrizio Rausa lived in Bali, the logical answer is a flat yes or no. That gives her nothing to think about. Instead, he said he started on a holiday with friends but liked it so much he stayed. That answer is true, b
When she mentioned Vipassana, the wrong move is to immediately ask "What is Vipassana?" like a fourth grader asking what someone does for fun. You can look it up yourself and gain knowledge about her interests without turning the conversati
MembersAfter she said she was leaving, Fabrizio Rausa did not pivot to the next logical question on a list. He did not ask "What are you going to do in Ubud?" Instead he said, "Why are you leaving now that we just met?" That is a rhetorical questi
When the girl said she was leaving Canggu the next day but would be back mid-August, Fabrizio Rausa reads that as a strong sign of interest. She is not just answering a logistical question; she is telling him when she will be available agai
MembersFabrizio Rausa walks through a real conversation from 2024, opened with the PhD opener while on vacation in Bali. The girl responded with "Yes. How long are you staying?" which is a context-appropriate question in a travel destination full
MembersOne of the most effective ways to differentiate yourself is to ask a girl about her dating experiences, not just her past relationships. If you met on a dating app, ask her how many dates she has been on from that app and how they went. Mos
MembersA well-placed assumption does not just get a reaction, it opens the floodgates for more imaginative, high-energy conversation. Once she is engaged and responding to what you assumed about her, you have a natural runway to pull her into a sh
Instead of asking questions in a bland, interview-style way, lead with assumptions. There are really only two outcomes, and both work in your favour. Either you are right, and she feels like you already know her type, which makes her want t
Every time you text a girl, there needs to be a purpose tied to a concrete goal, such as getting her on a date. Texting just to chat, to fill silence, or to stay on her radar gives away attention for nothing in return. That breaks the link
Fabrizio Rausa is direct: the only valid reason to text a girl is to move toward a date. Texting her just to have something to say, just to keep the conversation alive, is giving her free attention with nothing in return. That behaviour bre
Fabrizio Rausa points out that even skilled texters fail when they are in the wrong mental state. If you just finished an intense gym session with pumping music, you are wired to be direct and logical, not playful and flirtatious. That mism
Fabrizio Rausa argues that most guys are actually fine when they are face to face with a woman. The real bottleneck is texting. Because almost every stage of modern dating relies on text at some point, being bad at it quietly kills your res
Every piece here is something Fabrizio Rausa can talk you through, in their own words.