Saying 'I'll let you know if I'm out' puts you completely in her frame
When a girl tells you she is going out and you respond with 'Sounds fun, I'll let you know if I'm out,' you are behaving like a puppy waiting to be called. She has something she wants, and you have just told her you will report back when it is convenient for her to use you. That is operating entirely inside her frame. You are not leading, not qualifying her, not expressing any standard of your own. The line hands her all the social power and signals that talking to her is the highlight of your evening.
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Less is always more with texting, but dropping the date ask too early also fails
When in doubt, text her less. Less is always more with women. That said, going too far in the other direction and just suddenly hammering her with a date request out of nowhere is also the wrong move. You need to weave the date naturally in
Putting a price tag on your attention is the core texting principle
The fundamental problem with nice-guy or simp texting is that you give your attention away for free with no conditions attached. Your attention needs to have a price tag on it. You talk to her to advance to a date, and you do that by painti
Every text you send should move toward a date or stay silent
When you are texting a woman, there are only two valid directions. Either you are getting closer to her by painting an image of the two of you together in her mind, which lowers her anxiety and makes her want to go out with you, or you are