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When in doubt, text her less. Less is always more with women. That said, going too far in the other direction and just suddenly hammering her with a date request out of nowhere is also the wrong move. You need to weave the date naturally in
The fundamental problem with nice-guy or simp texting is that you give your attention away for free with no conditions attached. Your attention needs to have a price tag on it. You talk to her to advance to a date, and you do that by painti
When you are texting a woman, there are only two valid directions. Either you are getting closer to her by painting an image of the two of you together in her mind, which lowers her anxiety and makes her want to go out with you, or you are
In locations like Bali where there is a heavy traveler culture, the social energy can shift. Fabrizio Rausa describes encountering a Russian girl who, the day before she left, reached out to ask if he wanted to come join her and go on a dat
Sending 'How was your night? Tell me more' reads as desperate over-investment. Nobody genuinely cares that much about a casual contact's night out, and she knows it. Lines like that communicate that talking to her is the most interesting th
When a girl tells you she is going out and you respond with 'Sounds fun, I'll let you know if I'm out,' you are behaving like a puppy waiting to be called. She has something she wants, and you have just told her you will report back when it
When you look at a text conversation and there is no movement toward an objective, no attempt to figure out her level of interest, no push toward a meetup, you are just texting for the sake of texting. The girl in Cordell's exchange was cle
MembersWhen a woman agrees to a specific plan together, like going to a festival, and then asks for your WhatsApp, that is a clear logistics win. The conversation has moved from casual Instagram texting to a real number exchange with a date in min
MembersIf a woman says she is spending her last night with a friend, do not push her to see you instead. Telling her to choose you over a friend she actually knows is a losing move. She will always pick the friend over a guy she just started texti
When texting a woman, the flow should feel natural, not like an interrogation. The structure is: say something, ask a question, she responds, you respond to what she said, then ask another question. It goes question, content, content, quest
MembersWhen a woman says something like 'Come to Ubud and you will know what cacao ceremonies are,' she is not saying it neutrally. Fabrizio Rausa explains that she remembered she had mentioned going to Ubud at the start of the conversation, and n
Fabrizio Rausa is direct about this: if your Instagram is just a picture with a fish and nothing else, none of the conversational techniques will work as well. When a woman checks your profile mid-conversation, which she will, she needs to
Every response a woman gives you is data. Fabrizio Rausa explains that when he floated the FBI joke and she said yes, and then said 'sure' to the teaching idea, those were clear signals she was interested and wanted to keep the interaction
One of the most effective ways to move a conversation forward is to plant the seed of a shared activity rather than bluntly asking for a date. When a woman mentions something she does, tie yourself into it naturally. In Fabrizio Rausa's exa
MembersWhen she asked "What do you do on a daily basis?" because his previous answer had sparked her curiosity, Fabrizio Rausa did not list his daily routine. He replied "Are you FBI?" with a laughing emoji, keeping the tone light and playful rath
MembersWhen she asked whether Fabrizio Rausa lived in Bali, the logical answer is a flat yes or no. That gives her nothing to think about. Instead, he said he started on a holiday with friends but liked it so much he stayed. That answer is true, b
When she mentioned Vipassana, the wrong move is to immediately ask "What is Vipassana?" like a fourth grader asking what someone does for fun. You can look it up yourself and gain knowledge about her interests without turning the conversati
MembersAfter she said she was leaving, Fabrizio Rausa did not pivot to the next logical question on a list. He did not ask "What are you going to do in Ubud?" Instead he said, "Why are you leaving now that we just met?" That is a rhetorical questi
When the girl said she was leaving Canggu the next day but would be back mid-August, Fabrizio Rausa reads that as a strong sign of interest. She is not just answering a logistical question; she is telling him when she will be available agai
MembersFabrizio Rausa walks through a real conversation from 2024, opened with the PhD opener while on vacation in Bali. The girl responded with "Yes. How long are you staying?" which is a context-appropriate question in a travel destination full
The same way you can tell a rich person is wealthy just from how they carry themselves, without seeing their bank account, women can tell if you have been around other girls. It shows in your behavior, your confidence, the way you move thro
MembersOne of the most effective ways to differentiate yourself is to ask a girl about her dating experiences, not just her past relationships. If you met on a dating app, ask her how many dates she has been on from that app and how they went. Mos
Instead of asking questions in a bland, interview-style way, lead with assumptions. There are really only two outcomes, and both work in your favour. Either you are right, and she feels like you already know her type, which makes her want t
Every time you text a girl, there needs to be a purpose tied to a concrete goal, such as getting her on a date. Texting just to chat, to fill silence, or to stay on her radar gives away attention for nothing in return. That breaks the link
Fabrizio Rausa is direct: the only valid reason to text a girl is to move toward a date. Texting her just to have something to say, just to keep the conversation alive, is giving her free attention with nothing in return. That behaviour bre
Fabrizio Rausa uses an airplane analogy to explain this: a plane burns the most fuel on takeoff, running at full throttle, and only eases back to 60-70% once it is cruising. Early in a career or a major growth phase, you are on the runway.
Fabrizio Rausa points out that even skilled texters fail when they are in the wrong mental state. If you just finished an intense gym session with pumping music, you are wired to be direct and logical, not playful and flirtatious. That mism
Fabrizio Rausa argues that most guys are actually fine when they are face to face with a woman. The real bottleneck is texting. Because almost every stage of modern dating relies on text at some point, being bad at it quietly kills your res
Fabrizio Rausa is direct about this: he is not a pickup artist. His approach is about using dating time efficiently. He is not spending three hours walking around approaching strangers. If he happens to see an attractive woman on the way to
Fabrizio Rausa lays out a sequenced blueprint: get your Instagram dialled in before you focus heavily on dating, and worry about the perfect lifestyle setup after that. The reasoning is that once your online presence is strong, you already
MembersFabrizio Rausa lays out a clear order of operations. Fix your Instagram before investing in an ideal living setup or a premium location. If you move into the perfect apartment in the right neighborhood before your profile is sorted, you're
MembersFabrizio Rausa outlines a practical method for building an Instagram following full of local women. Start by finding accounts in female-dominated service industries: nail technicians, lash technicians, and popular local restaurants. Go thro
MembersOnce you have a solid Instagram with good highlights and a following of attractive women, Fabrizio Rausa recommends layering in controversial or opinionated dating content on your stories. His reasoning is simple: your actual competition is
Fabrizio Rausa applies the same logic to looks and height that he applies to followers: yes, being tall makes things easier, but a shorter, higher-value man will outcompete a tall loser every time. Obsessing over fixed traits you cannot cha
Fabrizio Rausa argues that obsessing over follower numbers is a distraction. More followers amplify who you already are. If you're a genuinely attractive, high-value guy, a larger audience helps. If you're not, no follower count saves you.
Fabrizio Rausa makes a sharp distinction between travel content and local presence. Traveling looks great on Instagram and is easy to produce, but it makes you a floating avatar to any girl you try to meet. If a girl from your city sees you
A common trap is spending money you don't have to project a lifestyle you can't sustain. Fabrizio Rausa is direct about this: even he doesn't go to the beach club every single day because he doesn't have the money for it yet, and that's fin
MembersWhen you are always in a new place, you can get one-on-one dates, but you never build the network that lets you scale. The scaling advantage looks like this: you invite a girl out with her friends, your own friends are there too, everyone i
MembersThe compounding path to a strong Instagram following is not Reels, not buying followers, it is becoming a familiar and respected presence in your own city. The more you go out locally, the more you date attractive women, the more their frie
Fabrizio Rausa keeps his following count around 97 people. When your profile looks sharp and your stories are compelling, women will land on your profile from a single story post and choose to follow you without any outreach on your part. H
Every piece here is something Fabrizio Rausa can talk you through, in their own words.