When a person does not meet your standards, extract value from the situation without self-deception
Not every situation is a binary choice between marrying someone and cutting them off immediately. If someone does not meet your criteria, the key rule is to understand that clearly and not rationalize away the truth. From there, you can still extract genuine value: use the association to improve your social proof, get travel content or photos, make business connections in high-status environments, or even generate income by putting the person to productive use. The one requirement is that you remain clear-eyed about the reality. Emotional confusion or rationalizing someone into a role they do not fit is where men go wrong.
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