Stop trying to change a person; select a person who already fits your criteria
The correct goal in dating is not to convince someone to stop doing things you dislike. Telling a woman you disapprove of her past, her social media use, or her other relationships does not change who she is. It only produces deception. If she already fits your criteria, she will behave accordingly without being told. The winning strategy is to find someone whose natural behavior already matches what you want, not to run a reform project on someone who does not. Trying to change someone is playing not to lose; finding the right person is playing to win.
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