Only take dating advice from people who are actually winning at dating
Fabrizio Rausa makes a sharp point about who you should listen to when you are struggling with dating. Do not ask someone who is a loser in dating how you should act in dating. The logic is straightforward: the quality of advice is tied to the experience and results of the person giving it. He acknowledges the common objection that coaches do not play, and he accepts it partially, but argues that you can still know what you are talking about even if you are not currently in the field at full capacity. The broader principle is about your network and your sources: surround yourself with people who are actually killers at the things you want to improve at, because their perspective will be grounded in real outcomes rather than theory.
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Every text you send should move toward a date or stay silent
When you are texting a woman, there are only two valid directions. Either you are getting closer to her by painting an image of the two of you together in her mind, which lowers her anxiety and makes her want to go out with you, or you are
There are seasons of life when dating is simply a bad ROI
Fabrizio Rausa uses an airplane analogy to explain this: a plane burns the most fuel on takeoff, running at full throttle, and only eases back to 60-70% once it is cruising. Early in a career or a major growth phase, you are on the runway.
Your mental state when you text directly shapes the tone she receives
Fabrizio Rausa points out that even skilled texters fail when they are in the wrong mental state. If you just finished an intense gym session with pumping music, you are wired to be direct and logical, not playful and flirtatious. That mism