The core purpose of a first date is to drop her anxiety, not to impress her

The whole point of a first date, according to Fabrizio Rausa, is to reduce the woman's anxiety. If she can see that you are a normal person with friends and real stories, her anxiety drops. Only once her anxiety is sufficiently low does a physical outcome become genuinely possible. Anything that happens before that point is on different terms. Different women have different baseline anxiety levels and different triggers, but the goal is the same across the board: make her comfortable enough that her guard comes down naturally.