Cold approaching has a huge rejection rate and mostly builds fear, not skill
Fabrizio Rausa argues that the high churn rate of cold approaching, where the overwhelming majority of approaches end in rejection, does not actually teach you anything useful. Instead, especially for inexperienced men, getting shot down ninety-nine times in a row mostly builds more fear. He rejects the common dating guru advice that you should practice by approaching a hundred women, seeing it as counterproductive for beginners. He contrasts this with online dating, where if you mess up a conversation the stakes are low, you never see the person in real life, and they were just an avatar on your phone rather than a real human interaction that can rattle your confidence.
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