A real example: a girl ghosted for months, then they went on a date
Fabrizio Rausa shares a personal story to illustrate how non-linear dating timelines can be. He reached out to a girl in 2024 and she never replied to his message. Some months later she saw him at the same festival. A month after that, she caught him on a TikTok live stream and finally replied to his original message. They talked a little but no date materialized. He stopped talking to her, then reached back out about four months later, and they went on a date. His point is that this kind of slow, interrupted, multi-attempt timeline is not the exception. It is actually how most dating plays out in practice. Patience and a lack of resentment are what make it possible.
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