Why Fabrizio Rausa chose to make the last day the best day before breaking up
Fabrizio Rausa's personal approach to ending a relationship was to keep everything appearing perfectly normal right up until the final moment, so that the other person never saw the end coming. He spent a lot of quality time together on that last day and made it as good as possible. His reasoning was straightforward: if a relationship had ten good months and two bad ones, the bad ending will leave a mark. He wanted to maximise the number of good memories rather than leave one dominant bad one. He acknowledges this approach did not make it easier for his partner and that she was not happy about it, but it reflected his own values around how past relationships should be remembered.
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