Orienting toward experience rather than outcomes makes breakups easier

If your primary goal in a relationship is to accumulate experience and grow, you handle endings far better than if your goal is to secure a particular outcome or hold onto a specific person. When the aim is experience, the end of a relationship does not feel like failure because you have already gained what you were after. Everything in romantic life comes with time and lived experience. Fabrizio Rausa plans to cover the pain of breakups and how to end relationships in a future video, building on this idea that framing relationships as experiences to be learned from, rather than possessions to be kept, is close to the optimal mindset.