Stop calling her your 'partner': you are the captain, she is the companion
Stop referring to your girlfriend as your 'partner.' You are not running a business or a company, and the rules that apply to you do not apply to her equally. You are the captain and she is the companion, or simply the girl you spend time with. Your train is heading somewhere and she can either ride it or get off. She cannot change the direction of that train. You live your life as if you are single, and you only give her a more central role when she is genuinely helping you move forward, such as going from broke to wealthy or having your children. Outside of that, you continue living as though you are on your own.
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