Some people are only meant to be in your life for a specific season
The speaker makes the point that a partner who was present during one chapter of your life, say when you were building from nothing, may simply not fit the person you become later. If you grow wealthier, become more social, and want new experiences, and she knew you only as the quiet, work-focused version of yourself, the mismatch is natural and not a moral failure. People change, and relationships that made sense at one stage do not automatically carry forward. His advice is not to let guilt over that drift hold you back from becoming who you want to be.
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