Focus only on what you can control: your behaviour drives the other person's response
The only lever you truly have in any relationship dynamic is your own behaviour. Your behaviour produces a reaction from the other person, and you build from there. If someone loses respect for you and eventually cheats, that loss of respect is the root cause. When it comes out of nowhere, accept it as part of the game. It happens to everyone and it does not touch your actual reality. Shift your energy toward what you can control and stop spending it on what you cannot.
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