Why Fabrizio Rausa avoids dinner as a first date option
Dinner is a poor choice for a first date for two main reasons. First, you are locking yourself into roughly two hours with a complete stranger you may not like at all. That signals you do not value your own time. Second, dinner is too formal, and it opens you up to being used. A girl who is not genuinely interested can still enjoy a free meal and leave. Coffee is the preferred option because it is casual, low stakes, and easy to end early or extend naturally depending on how things go.
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