There is a line between showing interest and being too focused on her
You want her doing most of the talking, but there is a small line you cannot cross. Fabrizio Rausa had a situation just recently where a girl had a complicated living situation. He was genuinely curious and wanted to know more, but when he reviewed the conversation with a friend, the verdict was clear: it was too focused on her. The right structure is to ask a question, have her say something, then you say something about it yourself, maybe a small statement. Use age as a simple example: you ask how old she is, she says 19, you say something like "that is a good age, I am much older," and then let her respond or take a guess at your age. That back-and-forth is what an actual conversation looks like. You will figure out the exact line over time, but the principle is to stay balanced.
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