Every question you ask in a conversation should have a purpose
Do not ask things just to ask. Fabrizio Rausa does not ask about favorite colors or other filler topics that do not genuinely interest him. Conversation needs to be intentional to some degree. You do need to cover some basics, like asking what she does for work, even if you do not deeply care. At minimum it tells you she is not a complete wildcard. But beyond that, everything you bring up should be moving the conversation somewhere. The goal is to get her comfortable opening up, comfortable talking about her past, and eventually comfortable enough to talk about more personal or intimate topics. That progression only happens if the conversation has direction from the start.
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Free-flowing conversation beats rapid-fire questions every time
When texting a woman, the flow should feel natural, not like an interrogation. The structure is: say something, ask a question, she responds, you respond to what she said, then ask another question. It goes question, content, content, quest
MembersUse indirect invitations so she invites you rather than you inviting her
When a woman says something like 'Come to Ubud and you will know what cacao ceremonies are,' she is not saying it neutrally. Fabrizio Rausa explains that she remembered she had mentioned going to Ubud at the start of the conversation, and n
Never ask obvious follow-up questions: let curiosity stay implicit
When she mentioned Vipassana, the wrong move is to immediately ask "What is Vipassana?" like a fourth grader asking what someone does for fun. You can look it up yourself and gain knowledge about her interests without turning the conversati