Dating is player versus player: stop demanding fairness when you are losing

The speaker frames dating and social dynamics as a competitive game where both sides play to their own incentives. If you use a woman for her body, you cannot complain when she uses you for a dinner. Each person is optimizing for their own position. He argues that calls for fairness almost always come from people who are not winning, because winners do not need the playing field leveled. The same logic, he says, applies to economic complaints: demanding redistribution is often a substitute for building skill.