Why dating apps strip away preselection and put you at a disadvantage
Fabrizio Rausa argues against dating apps specifically because they eliminate preselection entirely. On an app, you lose the ability to signal that other women want you, and you also lose any status or social clout you might carry in a real environment. Instead, you are reduced purely to your photos and your listed height. If those are not your strongest assets, you are not competing on a level playing field no matter how confident or mentally secure you are. His point is not that you should give up on dating, but that you need to find the environments where your actual advantages can show up. Dating apps, for most men who are not looks-maxed or very tall, will more often than not backfire. Real-world settings like clubs or social media profiles are where preselection can actually be demonstrated and leveraged.
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