Stop asking pointless questions: lead conversations with real curiosity
Fabrizio Rausa points out that most men kill their interactions by asking generic, low-stakes questions like 'What is your favorite color?' His view is simple: if you genuinely do not care about the answer, do not ask it. Instead, direct the conversation toward things you actually want to know, such as how adventurous or freaky someone is. You do not have to ask that bluntly. You can make a joke or a playful statement that signals where your head is at. The moment you stop filling space with pointless small talk and start showing real, specific curiosity, conversations become instantly more interesting for both people. This is not about being crude, it is about being honest with your attention and leading the interaction somewhere that actually matters to you.
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