Missing an ex is normal but acting on it by returning to her is a different thing
You do not need to kill your feelings or perform as a man who feels nothing. You are allowed to miss a girl. But missing her does not obligate you to go back to her, and going back when you know you should not is where self-respect erodes. Fabrizio Rausa's advice is to express those feelings by talking to your friends. Say out loud that you really miss her, let the feeling exist in conversation. But do not express it to her directly and do not use it as a reason to try to restart things. The moment you do, the cycle restarts and the damage to your self-image compounds.
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