Do not take a partner seriously until the relationship has been properly tested
The speaker's rule is straightforward: do not treat a relationship as fully serious until the woman has either become the mother of your child or the relationship has been put through a genuine test. The simplest test he names is whether she stays with you even after being wronged or betrayed. His reasoning is that words and early behavior are easy; how someone responds under real pressure reveals whether the commitment is solid or superficial.
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