Control when arguments happen, never let her start them on her terms

The speaker argues that you should never let a partner initiate conflict on her schedule, because she will almost always choose the most inconvenient moment, when you are at your weakest or most distracted. He references a story about a bald fighter whose girlfriend would always pick fights in the final 48 hours before a match, precisely because that was when he was most vulnerable. The lesson is to keep control of when tension rises and when arguments happen, so that emotional turbulence works in your favor rather than against you.